“Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.” (Romans 12:15, NET)

Paul’s exhortation in this verse is simple yet profoundly challenging. It calls us to a kind of empathy that goes beyond surface-level acknowledgment into full participation in the lives of others. In a world that often values efficiency over connection and distraction over attention, this command pushes us to slow down and truly engage with the people around us.

What does it mean to rejoice with someone who is rejoicing? Often, jealousy or comparison can creep in, dulling our ability to genuinely celebrate others’ blessings. Similarly, to weep with those who weep means more than offering a quick word of sympathy. It requires setting aside our comfort and opening our hearts to feel the weight of someone else’s sorrow.

Being fully present is more than just a relational skill—it’s a reflection of Christ. Jesus was the ultimate example of presence. In the joy of a wedding feast, He turned water into wine to enhance the celebration (John 2:1-11). In the depths of grief, He wept with Mary and Martha over Lazarus’s death, even though He knew resurrection was moments away (John 11:35). Jesus met people exactly where they were, without rushing to fix or judge but always fully engaged.

Paul’s instruction here fits into the larger framework of Romans 12, which begins with the call to present our bodies as a living sacrifice (Romans 12:1). Part of that sacrifice is giving our time, attention, and emotional investment to others. It’s an act of humility to set aside our agendas, our worries, and even our judgments to simply be with someone else in their moment—whether of joy or sorrow.

How often do we let distractions or self-interest keep us from being fully present? Do we listen to understand, or are we just waiting for our turn to speak? Do we celebrate someone’s success with genuine joy, or do we secretly compare their gain to our lack? Do we truly sit with those in pain, or are we quick to offer platitudes and move on?

Paul’s command is both an invitation and a challenge. To embody Christ’s love, we must be willing to step into the emotional realities of those around us. In doing so, we not only honor them but also worship God through our relationships.

Take a moment today to look around and ask: who in your life needs someone to rejoice with them? Who needs someone to weep with them? How can you set aside your distractions and enter into their moment with the love and presence of Christ?